Carnival of Aces // May 2013 // Appearances

Hello Everyone:

I’m thrilled to finally be hosting the Carnival of Aces here on Asexuality, Unabashed.  This month I’ll ask you to join me in sharing your thoughts and experiences on how your identity has impacted your appearance, or the impact your appearance has had on your identity.

You can learn about the Carnival of Aces here.

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 To get your gears turning, here are some questions and prompts to inspire your submissions:

-          Do you think your orientation is expressed in your personal style and the way you express yourself to others?

-          What are your thoughts/ experiences on people who dismiss asexuals as people who are not attractive enough to find someone?

-          What role do you think physical appearance plays in sexuality?

-          What are you thoughts/ experiences on people who dismiss asexuals as ‘a waste of looks’ or similar comments?

Have fun with the topic and interpret it in whatever way you relate to it. 

Submissions are due by June 5.  

They will be included in a master post on this blog and at TheAsexual Agenda. 

You may submit via your blog, tumblr, etc…  If you do not have an online outlet but would still like to participate you may submit your entry as a Word document. 

You may link to your submission in a comment on this post, or email them to me at audaciousace@gmail.com

Submissions sent after the deadline will still be accepted and added to the master post over time.

New Thoughts, New Approach

When I first started this blog I wanted to share my personal explorations and ideas about asexuality through essays.  At that time in my life I was doing a lot of self-dissecting and defining to really get to the root of who I was and what my asexuality meant for me and my relationships, etc…  After a couple years that constant thinking and striving for deeper understanding became exhausting.  I realized it didn’t matter if I never understood every individual aspect of my asexuality.  I stopped blogging because I felt I had nothing left to say.

That has changed for me recently.  I think there is a lot more to be said on asexuality than complex relationship talk and activism.  Of course those things will always be important, but what about the simpler, overlooked parts of our day to day lives?  What about who we are outside of our orientations?  I’m growing less interested in the politics of asexuality and more curious about the culture of it.  

As things are, I don’t much relate to the culture we have right now.  I don’t wear a black ring.  Sherlock and Dr. Who don’t appeal to me, and I still can’t figure out the whole cake thing.  Then there’s the lack of discussion and representation about asexuals of color.  It’s hard to connect to a community where I don’t see any representation of myself, you know?

So, that’s why I’m digging this blog back up and approaching things from a new angle.  I’m hoping it will help us connect in some different ways.  I still believe that communicating is the best way to build community, and I’m looking forward to you all of you getting in on the conversation.

To kick things off, what are your thoughts on asexual culture right now?  In what ways do you connect to it and in what ways do you not?  What do you feel is missing, and what would you like to see more of?  Do you feel one exists at all, or are we still building towards one?  I’m curious to hear from you!